The divorce may be final but is the left over pain and anger still eating you up? Here are ten tips to help to process the hurt and get on with your life. Prolonged anxiety, stress or agony of any kind hurts you physically, not just emotionally. Get ye to the track and run off the hurt, lift weights and scream, dance until you sweat. Eat right and drink water, not booze. Give your body a break. Self destruction will not make the relationship recover. You will recover.

If you managed to have a relationship, any relationship, even if it ended badly, at least you have known passion, partnership and perhaps, parenthood. Are you trying to continue to be a good parent but your ex-partner would rather eradicate you? Let the child live in peace and stay as involved as you possibly can. Just give consistent, unconditional love and time will do the rest. When the child is around ten, they see the truth. Not fair to the little kids.

Hot anger is, well, hot and not that different from passion. If you are still embroiled in someone else's life and what they say or do, you must still care. If a stranger said or did similar things would it bother you? Probably not. Admit you still care and get some professional help processing the left over love that is masquerading as hate. If you are still all tangled up in your old dead relationship, you will not notice. Double loss. You will recover. Probably not.

Remove yourself from triggers that jumpstart the feelings all over again. Take a trip to Rome or Baltimore, anywhere that is new and different to help put a relationship crisis in perspective. It is only a relationship. As much as it may hurt right now, it is not life-threatening HIV or cancer. You will recover. The blame game is immature and fruitless. Learn from your mistakes and try harder next time by selecting a more compatible partner or by learning to be a better partner.